What’s our role in preventing bullying?

Ellen DeGeneres made a video about the most recent rash of bullying that has resulted in the death of gay teens. It’s certainly not the first time I’ve thought about it, since I have a nephew I worry about regularly.

I don’t have kids. I don’t have much contact with kids.  I don’t think that gets me off the hook, but I wonder what I can do. If I had teens, I imagine I would talk with them to them about diversity, acceptance, and standing up to intolerance. But I’m not sure that would be enough. Group think and peer pressure can create frightening dynamics that are difficult enough for adults to counteract, and can be particularly hard to stop as a teen.

Supporting kids at risk

There are some things I know I can do. When I see a kid that is different, I can make an effort to talk with them, and counter some of the messages they are hearing. I absolutely talk about the realities of being different with the kids in my life, and proactively ask them about teasing, bullying and hate crimes they might be exposed to.  I want them to know they can talk to me about anything they are experiencing, and that I am willing to be an advocate. Of course, that doesn’t mean they can get to me when they need help, as I live across the country from the majority of my family.

The VisualsSpeak tools I’ve designed are used with teens by some of our customers. Is that enough? I’ve never felt competent working with kids, I’m certainly not naturally good at it. But I bet there is someone who is good at working with preventing bullying. Perhaps someone who could help us develop a specialized tool?

What else can be done?

Like so many other important aspects in life, all of this feels like a tiny drop in an ocean of problem. Part of me knows that each of us has an opportunity to make a difference, but it’s most effective when aligned with our individual skills and strengths. I wake up every day and work to create tools to help people connect deeper, reach across differences, and understand each other better. It just doesn’t feel like enough in the face of the giant problems in the world.

Here are some suggestions from around the web:

The Human Rights Campaign is asking people to send messages to Ask Secretary of Education Arne Duncan: Include gender identity and sexual orientation in anti-bullying programs.

As always, Patti Digh is speaking out, and has a list of 12 action steps we can all take to move beyond just clicking a like button and doing something more.

Teens Health has resources and information on bullying.

What do you do?


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Sketches: Frog

Frog

Frog

This is another new series of work I’m starting. It’s a combination of sketches of various creatures superimposed on backgrounds created by using Citrosolv to melt magazine photos and moving the ink around while its wet. There’s something about the contrast between the tightness of the drawn animal and the spontaneousness of the ground that is interesting me. Not sure where it will all go.


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Can you learn to be innovative?

Machine Design magazineMy husband shared an editorial  from one of his engineering magazines. The post,  Trying to be innovative is like trying to be taller, takes the position that the ability to be innovative has a large genetic component. Therefor any attempt to train people in innovation is a waste of time.

People who become engineers on company payrolls have a variety of positive genetic traits, but innate innovativeness generally isn’t one of them. That’s one conclusion to be drawn by the work of Scott Shane, a professor of economics at Case Western Reserve University and a specialist in innovation management. He says corporate training programs today don’t account for the reality that portions of what people bring to the table for decision-making, creativity, and innovation come from genetic influences. In particular, he singles out leadership training and innovation programs as being genetically doomed to failure. Such initiatives do little more than fine-tune the skills of those genetically predisposed to excel in these areas, Shane says.

Of course, one of the key factors here is the post is talking about people on company payrolls. Since the engineers in my life who work for themselves certainly are creative, innovative, and make decisions. You have to be when you work for yourself, at least in more challenging economic times.

Are they underestimating people?

I’ve worked with a lot of people over the years who say they aren’t creative. And not just mention it, but tell me over and over. They don’t even give themselves a chance. So many people have early childhood wounds from someone telling them their drawing of a horse looks like a dog, so they shut down and have avoided everything that might even have a chance of being considered creative. I don’t think it’s that they aren’t creative, it seems more like any creative potential is overshadowed by creative anxiety. Underneath the fear is an underdeveloped skill. Not a lack of potential.

Innovation seems to be more about executing creative ideas, which often is right in the center of an engineers skills. They know how to methodically work through a challenge, and are particularly adept at identifying parameters and limitations. It seems particularly strange to single out innovation as the skill engineers don’t have.

Perhaps it’s the definition of norms that is the problem?

The article closes with this

One last thing companies should ponder before wishing for a payroll full of innovators: Individuals who innovate are also the ones genetically primed to thumb their nose at their bosses and strike out on their own.

Maybe it’s because so many workplaces are hostile to the natural curiosity of creatives and innovators? Maybe it’s because there are so many definitions of how things should be that don’t take into account the full range of diversity? Maybe because innovation and creativity are seen as genetic traits rather than skills to develop?


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Painting from the studio: Clouded

Clouded

Today was one of those days. Hard to get clear, too many things running around my head. Instead of fighting it, I went out for a bike ride. When I got back, I found very concrete tasks that needed to get done, but didn’t require decisions. It allowed me to take a day where I could have just spun my wheels and turn it into a productive one.

What do you do on days where you feel clouded and unclear?


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Visual Food 6

Robert J Lang Origami


Robert Lang  takes origami to a whole new level. Almost makes me want to consider developing more math skills.

Peter Callesen Paper Cuts

Peter Callesen Paper Cuts

I bet you need really sharp scissors. Very precise ones.  Amazing work by Peter Callesen

Anastassia Elias Paper Rolls

Anatassia Elias Paper Rolls

Anatassia Elias Paper Rolls

Anastassia Elias work is diverse. Ranging from oil painting to some remarkable torn paper collage. These delighted me because it reminded me of all the craft projects we did as kids using toilet paper rolls. My grandmother would get them for us by the shopping bag full. We always wondered how a single woman could find them all. Did she steal them from public restrooms? Or perhaps recruit all her friends to save them?


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